Everything changes but change itself.”
John F. Kennedy
Boy, I sure didn’t handle change well at all or like it, and it was to be avoided at all costs. I would stay in my comfort zone – even if it meant being miserable – rather than make needed life changes. At one time, I thought committing suicide was preferable to facing a big transition.
The visual of me hanging on to something for dear life, engaging in a tug-o-war with the must-have it being ripped out of my hands comes to mind to portray my old attitude towards change. That or me running as if I was being chased by a bear. What I realize now is that, sooner or later, the bear is always gonna catch up. I used to wear myself out running away and trying to figure out clever maneuvers to avoid the dreaded change.
Now, I put that same energy to work for me instead. The first step in the process of embracing change for me is accepting “what is” and becoming aware of and letting go of any resistance I have to it, which may take days and involve tears or cuss words. Once I can say “OK. Now this,'” I take a big breath and figure out the best way to proceed and how to make the situation play out for my growth and benefit. Notice I didn’t say “to my preference.” It’s not the same thing. Not even close.
These days, I don’t have to be forced into change kicking and screaming by some self-made catastrophe. I’m open to change and even seek it out with a kind of a bold curiosity. I now believe that change makes life rich.
Wherever we are, it is but a stage on the way to somewhere else, and whatever we do, however well we do it, it is only a preparation to do something else that shall be different.”
Robert Louis Stevenson
It’s been my observation that usually something comes along that’s even better than what I was trying to hang on to in the first place. An example of this occurred to me today. Even though there were many good reasons for me to move to a smaller house, I was very hesitant to relocate because of a lake and park within walking distance of my former home. The lake had a paved path around it where I ran and walked the dog. I did a lot of emotional healing around that lake. The trees, the water, even the geese and turtles all played a part.
When searching for a place to move to, I looked close enough to allow me to continue to have access to it. Sadly, I couldn’t find one. Where I did end up moving, I had to get in the car and drive somewhere to run and walk the dog. “What a pain!” I thought, at first. But, you know what? I’m discovering all these great parks and running trails nearby. Just this morning on a trail deep in the woods, I came upon a bamboo forest. Magical! I never even knew all these wonderful places existed and would not have if I hadn’t given up my old routine.
In uncertainty lies all possibility. “
That one is by me.