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Imagine that someone presents you with a to-do list and tells you that you better hurry and start crossing things off. You begin working your way through the list. One of the first to-do’s is sending your resume to what you consider to be a boring, desk job. You had hopes of being an innovator and entrepreneur, but this person laughs at the mere thought and tells you that you could never do that. “Quit dreaming,” they say. “You’ll be lucky just to get a decent job to pay the bills — even if you don’t like it.”

The desk job, while not really engaging or challenging, is on the stable, safe path and is the much more practical alternative. When you finish writing the cover letter to accompany the resume, the overseer criticizes the result and belittles your effort.

Taking a break before marking the next item off the list, you watch a little television news. The whole time, the annoying nag chatters incessantly telling you the “right” way to think and feel about each topic that comes on the broadcast justifying smugly why they’re right. When they are finished with their commentary,  they are sure to point out that you’re being a “lazy bum” and that you should get back to work.

Even when you go to bed, the pest just will not leave you alone. Even though you’re obviously trying to go to sleep , they go on and on, picking apart the events of the day in minute detail, dredging up things from f the past and telling you that you need to worry about this or that in the future.

You Are Your Own Worst Critic

You’d certainly be justified in wanting to tell this person to “shut up!”  Understandably, you probably wouldn’t want to be around them willingly or consider them to be nice — yet many of us allow our own minds to treat us like this, or worse, every day without thinking anything of it. The amazing this is that we are treating ourselves this way like it’s OK. It’s not!

You are doing it.

You can stop it!

In his book, Beyond Mental Slavery: A Guide to Breaking Free and Thinking Clearly, Steve Gillman explains that we all have subconscious, reactive programs and mental processes from our subconscious pasts which guide our thoughts and decisions and limit the clarity and effectiveness of our thinking. He writes:

Quick rationalizations provide obvious but ‘untrue’ reasons for our beliefs and actions, biases prevent us from examining new ideas, and desires push us to win arguments rather than search for truth.  We are led around by these parts of our minds that we’re only vaguely aware of.  …[W]e can either use the mind or be used by it.”

You Can Break Free

To break free, think clearly, and go beyond the mental slavery of our own minds, Gillman suggests the following practices:

  • Challenge your own thinking.  Use your reasoning power against itself to make logical arguments for opposing beliefs and theories.  Be honest with yourself and recognize your own biases.
  • Pay attention to your thoughts.  Learn to observe your mind by developing self-awareness and consciousness.  Routinely challenge your assumptions and their origins. Be willing to see how conditioned you might be. Start with a desire for the truth – no matter what it might be. Meditation and mindfulness practices are a great way to do this.
  • Become aware of the effect that certain words have on you. Notice which words generate strong reactions or feelings for you. Identify words that carry extra meaning for you or that may mean something different to others.  Doing so will prepare you to listen more objectively and to be less reactive. He offers exercises in the book to help you do this.
  • Learn to recognize when your thinking is being corrupted by your ego.  Specifically to overcome the influence of the ego, he advises to:

– have fewer opinions
– argue less
– question your motivations and challenge your assumptions
– borrow instead of buying ideas
– become interested in and make the opposing argument
– be open to changing your mind
– understand limitations
– admit ignorance

This Is How You Free Yourself From Mental Slavery

The First Step Is Deciding To Do It

Gillman advises that an essential step in breaking free of mental slavery is for a person to make the commitment to themselves to do so. Like a lot of our limitations in life, mental slavery can only happen if you allow it. I can attest that taking control of your mind is taking control of your life. Doing this has  allowed me to dramatically change myself and my life for the better. Gillman writes:

Your progress toward a mind that truly serves your highest purpose will always depend on your willingness to observe yourself.  When you do that, you’ll start to see where you are giving your freedom away in bits and pieces to this or that momentary master.”

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  1. I love the encouragement and inspiration in this piece along with the suggestion of tiny steps. It reminds me a lot of how we see and work with emotions in Buddhism.

  2. This makes comeplte sense Debbie. Ultimately its recognizing the inner critic and then making the intention and decision to not be a slave to it that goes a long way in the brains healing.
    Thank you for sharing this!

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